Journal of a 77 Year Old Gay Man Coming In For the Final Landing

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Into The New Year 2019

Ron and Pat at Alfred's Coffee House


Here we go folks, another new year. Little did I know I would live this long. A long time ago, when I was just a young man departing from the Army (1963), I thought I would be lucky if I lived until the next century.  And here I am, nineteen years into the 21st century. I am now an official Old Man. And you know what folks? This life isn’t all that bad.  Oh sure, I have my aches and pains.  I worry about if I can keep up with my insurance payments that keep increasing every year.  I’m working now part-time but there will probably come a time in the future that I won’t be working.  Right now we have a two income household with Bill’s Social Security monthly payments but Bill is ninety years old. That household income source will probably end in the next ten years. That is a concern to me folks, I would have to “cut back.” But all that is in the future. I concentrate on the now.

Next month I depart for California for a two week stay with my Canadian Best Friend Pat F. We will spend a week in West Hollywood and another week in Palm Springs. Best time of my life folks. Four times a year Pat and I get together for a trip; twice a year in my old hometown of Philadelphia and once year in Pat’s hometown of Hamilton, Ontario, Canada.

I’ve had more health issues in the past five years that I’ve had in my previous seventy years. There will probably come a time when a health issue will ground me. But for now folks?  I’m enjoying life to the fullest.


Happy New Year 2019

A video wish for all of you who read this blog for a happy, healthy and prosperous new year!

Update December 2018

Ron Tipton at WorkHello folks. I’m back again. I began this blog with all good intentions of keeping it up to date but life keeps interfering. That’s my lame excuse. That and the fact that I keep another blog posting through blogspot that I keep up to date almost daily.

Pardon me while I ramble a bit here but I feel a need to explain my current situation.

I turned seventy-seven years old this year. I am now officially an old man. There is no way out of it. Never in my life did I think I would reach this grand old age. Never did I think I would outlive so many of my old friend and former co-workers but I have.  But my time is coming, I can feel it.

I’m not steady on my feet.  My body aches from encroaching arthritis. I have an extra heartbeat which I really notice when I over exert myself walking or other forms of physical activity.  I need a daily afternoon nap or else I just wear down.

The one good thing I have in my life now, besides my long term relationship with Bill Kelly, my partner and now husband of fifty-four years, is my Canadian friend Pat F. I met Pat through the Internet (he saw my photo on the Internet and looked me up) and we’ve been good friends ever since. We travel together four times a year. He is the man I’ve been looking for all my life. Then who is Bill you might ask? When I got together with Bill fifty-four years ago I told him then he wasn’t The One. He has always understood that. But I will never leave Bill, I love him too. But Pat and I have so much more in common. I am convinced we are from the same amoeba from a previous life.

Well, I don’t want to wear out my welcome after this long absence but I did want to see if I can make a go out of this blog and keep it more current than I have promised in the past.

To anyone who happens to come by this lonely blog, I wish you all a wonderful Christmas and a very happy and healthy new year!

Raison d’être Redux



  1. Of a topic, restored, brought back, revisited

Here I am back addressing the meaning of my life…again.  My last post explored raison d’être or the meaning of life.  


After I published that post I realized I left out the main reason for my existence.  How could I?  Only one of my blog followers caught my error.  Thanks Scott of “Bigger Than My Heart”.   


Of course my reason for existence is to provide security, peace and happiness for the love of my life, Bill Kelly.  


Too often I take this wonderful man for granted.  Too often I assume that my life of having the total love of a man such as Bill as normal state of affairs.  Then I look around and see other gay men I know who are either in dysfunctional relationships or alone.  


In my hubris I assume a lot of these guys are alone because they are douches, not very nice people.  Actually most of them aren’t.  They are selfish, grasping, opportunistic and self-serving.  I look at them and think “You deserve to be alone because you’re just not very nice.”  


But then I take a good look at myself and see many of the same characteristics that I deride in so many of the gay men I know.  Notice that I don’t call them my friends because they are not my friends, just men I know who happen to be gay.  I don’t have any gay men who I can call true friends (bloggers are in a different category). 


Now this is how fortunate I am.  I have Bill.  Bill loves me in spite of all my faults, of which I have many that I am not ashamed to admit.  God knows no one else would put up with me the way Bill has for the past forty-seven years.  Hey, I wouldn’t put up with me!


So to correct my last post which addressed my reason for living:  Bill Kelly.


I’ve been told many times over the years that I don’t deserve Bill.  I have always attributed these remarks to jealousy on the part of the person making that statement.  


Perhaps I don’t deserve Bill.  But I’ll tell one and all this one fact, I have and always will provide for Bill and happy, secure and peaceful life.  Bill is my raison d’être.